Nurturing a Peaceful Child
Picture a peaceful nine-year-old child, kind and giving, passionate and joyful, and mostly in control of his or her emotions. Is this some alien species? Or is it possible to nurture peaceful children in our highly competitive, cynical and polarized society?
Research tells us that educating the emotions, teaching self-control, has a wider impact than preventing violence. Look at the widespread anti-bullying programs in place across our country today. And yet, mean spirited, demeaning behavior persists in elementary schools and beyond.
Surround your child with a caring community of adults who model emotional competence. Gently but firmly set the boundaries for your child’s behavior to provide both physical and emotional security. When you lose your temper with your child out of frustration or exhaustion, apologize. Explain your feelings and actions to help your children recognize and accept their own mistakes, to understand that no one is perfect, no one is superior.
Stop calling your children good or bad. A child labeled good is only good in relation to someone else’s being bad. Labeling encourages children to invest in keeping others bad to ensure superiority.It perpetuates a cycle of judgment and blame and discourages cooperation.
Build your child’s self-confidence and empathy by supporting them in moments of personal crisis and demonstrating that helping others is as important as superior grades or winning the game. Each step you demonstrate toward cooperation and compassion is a step toward developing a peaceful child.
First Thursday | Come Experience Montessori
Seeds of Peace
Thursday, March 6, 8:45-9:30 a.m.
Toledo and Perrysburg Campuses
Join us for a lively discussion led by Montessori-certified teachers on planting the seeds of peace within our children at school and at home. Each month features a new topic geared for the parents of children ages 3 through Kindergarten. Free and open to the public.This entry was posted in Black Cherry, Emerald, Head of School, Maple, Perrysburg Kindergarten, Poplar, Sapphire, Sassafras, Toledo Kindergarten. Bookmark the permalink.